I searched “Adulting” on urban dictionary today… and I was almost offended by the definitions I found. Granted. They were from 2015, so the times have changed.
Here is the top definition on Urban Dictionary:
Adulting (v): to carry out one or more of the duties and responsibilities expected of fully developed individuals (paying off that credit card debt, settling beef without blasting social media, etc). Exclusively used by those who adult less than 50% of the time.
Not too bad… still slightly offensive.
What does exclusively used by those who adult less than 50% of the time even mean??
I pay my bills and I never blast my beef on social media. I adult 85% of the time(pay my bills, pay my rent, cook for myself, work a 9-5).
I also texted my mom saying “I hate adulting” this week. Partially because working a 9-5, commuting 2+ hours, finally getting home, realizing you need to go to the grocery store and then cooking at 8pm is not ideal.
Here is a rude definition:
Being a responsible adult. Used by immature 20-somethings who are proud of themselves for paying a bill.
Okay. Who pissed in your cheerios man??? As a millennial, and someone with great credit, who pays their bills in full every month. I kind of take offense.
#Adulting is hard.
The problem millennials face is this:
We were told we needed an education to make money, and then we came out of college with crazy student debts, to then go work for a job that probably does not pay enough.
Then we are expected to buy a house, have a savings, contribute to our 401k, get married and have kids.
Unfortunately, all these traditional milestones, that come with being a responsible adult, cause us to become consumed with stress. This leads to depression, lack of motivation, anxiety, panic attacks, self doubt, lowered self-esteem, and a bunch of other issues that affect our mental health. (just saying)
We then opt to buy expensive dogs(or regular dogs) instead, which gives us motivation to buy a house so our dogs can have a better life, thus putting off kids for a few extra years. (Serious or Sarcastic?)
Just to be clear.
Animals can improve your mood, reduce stress, encourage you to exercise, reduce anxiety, and make you feel less lonely(sometimes).
The bottom line is.. Adulting is hard
Socioeconomic trends have changed in the past few years, and are very different for 20-somethings we simply take longer to transition into actual adulthood.
We aren’t all giving ourselves pats on the backs for paying a bill here and there. Most of us are just doing the best we can.
SHIT IS JUST EXPENSIVE.
Some people take longer to gain financial independence, and making fun of adulting is our way of coping with the fact that a lot of us are stuck living at home.
Doomed to spend the rest of eternity making bad financial decisions.
Spending absurd amounts of money on Starbucks coffee and avocado toast. That is, until we land our hypothetical dream job that pays well, or we move somewhere, where the cost of living isn’t BS.
P.S. Stop spending money on Starbs and avocado toast!