Technology is great. People are great. Tons of people meet online and go on to date or get married.
But then, you get that handful of people, who just seem to have lost their forking brain (but really though where did you leave it? Maybe I can help you find it?).
Somehow… social media has transported us to a world, where people think that when someone never responds, it means they should try harder.
You didn’t respond 48 days in a row… but.. hey! how’s your day today? As if the 49th time is going to be different.
Hello… Remember Me?
I can tell that you’re online, based on your activity-bri
Currently making Adele’s song into a joke about cyber stalking /DM sliding, if you haven’t caught on yet.
You may be wondering why I am ranting on about this or why it is relevant…. so let me explain my madness.
I recently made all new social media accounts and apparently, by doing so, I opened the flood gates for messages from a handful of random people. It would be one thing if they were commenting on my blog, or my page; but no, they just came to say “Hey. You’re pretty. What’s up?”
In my opinion this is ONE of the most UNATTRACTIVE things a person can do, and it’s a huge pet peeve of mine.
I don’t think desperate is a good look on anyone to be fair.
Just because you have the ability to message people you don’t know a million times, it does not mean you should.
Most of the guys I don’t know, but then I get the ones that I had previously blocked on a different account, that decide now is the time to seize the opportunity and give it one more go.
If I wasn’t dabbling in blogging and interested in potential content (that sounds mean), then I probably would have blocked these people right off the bat. Instead, I left them on read and watched as the messages kept pouring in.
The messages were cringe worthy to say the least.
So much so that I considered taking where I worked off of my LinkedIn. I mean, this is how people end up dead in ditches or kidnapped, right? (slightly dramatic but still)
Here’s an example of the lengths these people are going to….
I had a guy offer me 10k for a “friendship” his words (swear to god), in hopes that I would hang out with him ONCE. Then, and only then, would he feel content leaving me alone.
I couldn’t help but let my mind wander. I started to think. Is this how they plan to kidnap me? Venmo me 10k… under the condition I meet them for a drink. Then, next thing I know, I’m being drugged and held hostage in someone’s mothers basement. YIKES.
Hard Pass. Flattered.
I’ve tried just about everything. I’ve gone the not responding route, which did not work. So then, I tried responding and saying, “Thanks I’m not interested.” That did not work either.
I guess the best thing you can do after that, is block them.. or subject yourself to future harassment.
I’d like to point out that the act of sliding into DM’s itself, doesn’t have to be frowned upon; but there is a right and a wrong way to do it.
If I am interested in someone… I might respond to a story someone posted and initiate a conversation.
BUT there has to have been previous mutual interest.
If two people are liking each others posts back and forth; then it is safe to ASSUME sending them a message won’t be considered super creepy.
That does not mean, that the other person is actually interested. It just means you have a higher chance of a response.
The truth is… if they don’t know you exist, then they probably don’t care to(harsh), and leaving a comment on their pictures asking, “hey, did you see my DM?” is awkward.
Not to mention.
Excessively messaging someone is considered harassment. So let’s just quit the creepy stalker shit in 2020.